"Can a leopard change its spots?"

The heading to this post comes from the Old Testament book of Jeremiah (13:23).  In context, the answer is "No!".  However, the prophet did not know of the saving grace of the Lord Jesus, the Christ!

The following is a report from Christian Press (also in Charisma News) that came to me in one of my regular mailings, and Prayer Guides (The International Daily Prayer Bulletin, published by Revival, Eastbourne.  Tel. 01323 725231; www.revivalmedia.org  Copies on request).

"Amy had been in a nine-year lesbian relationship that had broken up, leaving her wondering why her deepest longings could never be satisfied.  She and Rachel had just started hanging out when they decided to attend Gateway Church in Austin, Texas, on a Sunday morning.  'I came on a mission to shock people', Amy admits.  'Rachel and I would hold hands in front of people but, instead of the disgusted looks of contempt we expected, people ... treated us like real people.'

'Not long after that, Rachel and I stopped seeing each other, but I kept coming to church because I was searching for something', Amy recalls.  'The more I learned about the teachings of Jesus, the more I actually started to believe that God really did love me.  I heard more and more about being His masterpiece and, in time, I actually started to believe it. ... As I moved closer to Christ, He gently took me on a very surprising journey. ... First, I found out that my father had nine affairs while I was growing up - a secret that rocked my world.  Jesus began to show me the roots of my issues - I was, just like (dad), using people to find comfort, life, and love, outside of God.'

As she grew in her trust of God's love, further recollections were brought back.  She recalled the day she was pinned down and raped by three boys when she was only nine years old!  The Lord had been drawing her near to strengthen her to see the source of so much sexual struggle, hidden for years beneath layers of protective mud.  'After that', she shares, 'I realised God knows more about me than I know about myself.  As I continued to seek intimacy with Him, the lesbian struggles fell away. ... The more I focus on God's intimate love for me, and try to see His masterpiece emerge, the less I want anything to get in the way of His work in me.'

Seven years later, Amy leads Gateway Church's ministry to help people find healing and wholeness from all kinds of sexual, and relational, struggles.  She is helping others become God's restored masterpieces."

Now, of course, not every lesbian has had the same experiences that Amy had; homosexuals will have had completely different ones; others with sexually relational difficulties will have yet other ones.  However, there is one thing that is common to all of us - lesbian, homosexual, heterosexual, whatever.  That one thing is sin.  I am a sinner; you are a sinner; and there is nothing that any of us can, by ourselves, do about it.  That's the wonder of the Good News - that "... anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!" (II Cor.5:17); and that "The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, He will show you a way out so that you can endure." (I Cor.10:13).

You may 'meet' Amy in the video at http://www.gatewaychurch.com/sexuality/   The whole of the message is well worth watching - by anyone!   Please feel free to contact me via the e-mail address at the top of the page, if you think that I may be able to help - or, at least, point you in the direction of someone who can.

Guidance

When I am out in my car, I have a sat-nav (GPS) system to guide me to my planned destination.  (I also have a wife-nav - often more dependable!).   Life, however, does not come with a sat-nav, and knowing which direction to take can be one of the most difficult, and one of the most frustrating, decisions that one has to make on a daily basis.

As a disciple of Jesus, I am particularly concerned that I know God's will for my life.  I have often said that what I would really like is a postcard, delivered every morning.  It would be postmarked "Heaven"; signed "G,O,D,", and have a list of bullet points outlining Father God's will for me for that particular day.  Sadly, that is not the way in which He works.  Guidance comes - but I must be willing to look for it, and able to recognise it when it does!

The long gap in posts has been because my wife and I have been house-hunting - in France.  Although we are normally based in the static caravan that we have in the Gironde area, we are looking for a house in the Dordogne - as close to Bergerac as we can manage.  To facilitate our search - and the countless viewings that were being arranged, we spent a lot of our time stopping with friends who live much closer to Bergerac and, of course, it would have been rude of me to spend too much time in the evenings, ignoring the chat, and concentrating on my computer!

We still haven't found the 'right' house, at the 'right' price, in the 'right' area.  We are convinced that the Lord has a specific property for us - but He hasn't revealed it to us, yet!   We believe that our more permanent move to France is in His will - there have been many confirmations of that, even at times when we were beginning to question it - but to be what we believe He wants us to be, we really do need that house!

So what do we do?  Well, we pray about the situation.  We keep looking at potential houses.  We discuss the various possibilities - with each other, and with trusted friends.   We continue to trust our loving heavenly Father that He will lead us to the right place, at the right time.  On a very practical note, I monitor (usually on a daily basis, ex Sunday) the Pound Sterling to Euro currency exchange rate.  At the moment it is favourable - and it may be that the Lord is simply holding us back until it reaches a level that will allow us to purchase the house of His choosing.

I wonder if you, too, find guidance to be difficult; if you wonder about the decisions that you make; if you long for something clearer, day by day?   I wish that I had a simple solution!   I don't.  All that I can recommend is what my wife and I are seeking to do.  It's called trust, or faith.  However, it is not the faith that is of greatest importance - it is the Object of that faith.  Put your own trust in Him.  Be assured that He does have a perfect plan and purpose for your life.  Then, while doing all that is necessary from your own perspective (like us looking at all of these houses!), leave the final solution to Him.

When I was a young student at the Bible Training Institute in Glasgow, so many years ago now, I learned my first Greek language phrase.  It was the motto of the College: "Pistos 'o Theos" - which means "God is faithful".  I proved that, on innumerable occasions.  I am still proving it today.  I commend my faithful God to you - and you to my faithful God!

3 reasons you must not see Fifty Shades of Grey

For many months, now, I have been receiving a daily posting from a Dr Jim Denison.  I have found each of them - even those that referred to matters that were specific to the USoA - to be very interesting.   The following is a direct copy of the post that I received today, and I copy it here (permission granted) with an additional comment of my own.  Please read, and consider very carefully, what Dr Denison says.  I have neither seen the film (or even the 'trailers') nor read the book, but I have no doubt that Dr Denison has based his comments on very reliable evidence.

"Fifty Shades of Grey tells the story of Ana, a college student, and Christian, a successful entrepreneur.  The two engage in a sexual relationship that becomes increasingly abusive.  Tonight, the film version of the novel premieres in theaters, timed for the Valentine's Day weekend.

Please, do not see this movie.  And do all you can to encourage others not to see it.  Why is it so dangerous?  Consider three facts.

One: the movie is pornographic in the extreme.  It is a "terrible" movie, according to The New York Times, with bad writing and awkward dialogue (Us Weekly lists "50 Problems With the Raunchy Flick").  But far worse, it is a porn movie disguised as a romance.  According to The Atlantic, the film shows at least 20 full minutes of sex.

Two: the plague of pornography is an epidemic in our culture, and this movie will make things far worse.  GQ, a magazine not known for biblical morality, recently cited reasons readers should quit watching pornography immediately.  Among them:

• Porn damages the brain.  Scientists at Cambridge University recently determined that people addicted to pornography show similar brain activity to alcoholics or drug addicts.
• Porn motivates people to seek new sexual partners.  This is an example of the Coolidge Effect, or novelty-seeking behavior.
• Porn use escalates.  In one study, 64 percent of porn viewers reported that their tastes in porn had become more extreme or deviant.
• Pornography saps energy.  In the same study, 67 percent reported an increase in energy levels and productivity when they stopped viewing porn.

Fifty Shades of Grey will spread the plague of porn to even more people.  Don't be among them.

Three: the movie glamorizes and normalizes sexual abuse.  One study concluded that nearly every interaction between Ana and Christian was emotionally abusive, including stalking, intimidation, and isolation.  It also noted pervasive sexual violence, and that Ana exhibits classic signs of an abused woman.  A second study showed a correlation between those who read the novel and developing an eating disorder, having abusive romantic partners, engaging in binge drinking, and having five or more sexual partners before the age of 24.

The executive director of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation calls the movie "a sensationalized lie, telling women that they can, and should, fix violent and controlling men by being obedient and devoted, and that, somehow, this is romantic.  It is no surprise that Hollywood is betting millions of dollars that now is the right time to offer sexual abuse and sexual violence against women as mainstream entertainment."

God tells us to "flee from sexual immorality" (I Corinthians 6:18).  The psalmist prayed, "Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things; and give me life in your ways" (Psalm 119:37).  Job said, "I have made a covenant with my eyes" to refuse sexual sin (Job 31:1).

Let's make the same covenant today.  Please, do not see this movie."
[Jim Denison, Ph.D., is founder of the Denison Forum on Truth and Culture, a non-sectarian "think tank" designed to engage contemporary issues with biblical truth. For more information on the Denison Forum, visit www.denisonforum.org. To connect with Dr. Denison in social media, visit www.twitter.com/jimdenison or www.facebook.com/denisonforum.]

I know very little, other than the title of the original book when it was published, about 50 Shades.  However, what I also find to be of some concern is the revelation that the main character and, if I understand the situation correctly, the character responsible for the seduction, and for the instigation of the sexual abuse, is given a name which is, I would argue, not very common in English-language speaking countries - "Christian"!  I merely wonder if there is, in fact, a hidden agenda here that aims to bring into disrepute anything that connects with the Name that is above every name, even the Name of Jesus, the Christ, Whose followers were called "Christians", firstly in Antioch (Acts 9:26).

Regrets?

Tomorrow, DV, I will once again celebrate the day of my physical birth!  Okay, when I say "celebrate", I really mean "remember"!   No big party; no special meal; not even a cake!   Just my wee wife and me, here in the static, spending another evening together.

I've had quite a few of these birthday anniversaries and, as I look back over my life, I've had quite an interesting one.  Of course, as with (I would think) everyone else, I have a number of regrets.  There have been decisions made that I have wished I had not made; there have been choices made that I have wished I had not made; there have been things done that I wish that I had not done.

The other side of that is that there have been other decisions, choices, actions, that I have not regretted, and do not regret.  The most important of those was made just a few days before I celebrated my physical birth for the fifteenth time (Feb.9th, to be precise!).  That decision was to yield my life to the Lord Jesus, the Christ, and to seek to serve Him for all of the days that He would grant to me.   As I have, of course, often said, I doubt that I fully understood the import of that decision, at that time.  However, I can happily testify that I have no regrets about having made it.  I have often -all too often - let Him down; but He has never let me down.  I have found Him to be completely, and utterly, trustworthy; totally dependable; and the best Friend that anyone could ever have.

Another decision about which I have no regrets is the one that took place some ten years later when I asked a certain young girl if she would condescend to be my wife.  Thankfully, she made the decision to do so - and we are now in our forty-fifth year of marriage.   Yes, we have had our 'ups and downs'; but she has been a faithful, supportive, encouraging, loving wife - no man could ask for better.  I loved her then - or so I thought.  Actually, as the years have passed, I have discovered that I didn't really know what love was, all of those years ago.  I love her, now, far more than I would even have thought possible on that evening when I made my marriage proposal.

Nor have I regretted our decision to have a family.  We have two daughters of whom I am so very proud.  They are very different from one another, in many ways; but each is "the fruit of my loins", and is greatly loved by their dad.

I wonder, as you read this post, if you have ever taken time to look over the decisions that you have made - like myself, some that you will regret, and others that you will not.  It is, I would suggest, a salutary experience to take the time to do so.   When you do, I trust that you will be able, with me, to give thanks to Almighty God for His guiding hand upon your life.   My first excursion into tertiary Education was my attendance at the Bible Training Institute, in Glasgow.  The motto of the College was (in transliterated Greek!) "pistos ho Theos".  In translation, that means "God is faithful".  That is certainly my testimony; I trust that it is yours, also!

A good legacy.

Earlier today, one of my Canadian friends posted a video-clip on Facebook.  Well worth watching!

 

As a retired teacher, I loved it. The teacher in the clip and I had so much in common. Even with the going to the toilet (UK-speak for the bathroom: if it doesn't have a bath, it isn't a bathroom!!!). In my case, I pointed out that, in their teens, they ought to be able to exercise a certain amount of control over their bladders; that they had regular intervals in which to attend to such bodily functions; and, when a girl insisted that it was "that time of the month", I let her know that I was noting the date, and that she would not get away with that excuse for at least another four weeks!

I also encouraged my charges to think; to consider evidence; not to be biased. I taught them the difference between asking "Can I ...?" and "May I ...?" - even 'though I was not their teacher of English! We had a lot of fun in class - but they knew where I had drawn the line (and it was I who drew it!). What did I make - I endeavoured to make well-rounded, positive, contributory, well-mannered, members of society

The result?! Some 80% of my Facebook contacts are former pupils - and only at their request! Actually, I have almost 100 who have made the request but whom I have not accepted - either because I don't recall them or, in some cases, because I recall them only too well! I have had pupils contact me to apologise for their deviant behaviour in my class - indicative, I would hope of their having absorbed something positive, even if it didn't blossom for many years.  There are some with whom I meet, from time to time, for a coffee (or, in my case, usually a Green Tea!).

The moral - for any adult who is involved with youngsters? You never know the effect that you are having on young, impressionable, minds - so be careful! Let them see, in you, "... whatever is true, whatever is honourable, whatever is just, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious," whatever is excellent, whatever is worthy of praise. (see Philippians 4:8). You will have no regrets!